How often are you so mad, upset, frustrated (add your adjective) by a situation (or person) in the moment, then as time passes and you have already reacted (possibly poorly) does it no longer seem like the glaring mess of wailing sirens and burning buildings that it did at the time.
I know it happens to me frequently, though I try to limit (to some extent) the outward show of anxiety. But when I don’t have that control, or I feel things spiraling, like: the house is a wreck; Liam just threw a toy at me (again); I have no clue what to write for my next email/blog post; I’m feeling guilt for wanting to work during family time (or vice versa), I can get down right snappy…
And unfortunately it is those closest (and safest) to me that get the real brunt of it.. (sorry!)
It’s been an almost 14-year running joke in our house that if mommy (me) is stressed or snappy, just shove a cheeseburger in her (my) mouth (LOL)
All that to say… I think we all need to do like the turtles do.
Wait, Leslie, you lost me… what do turtles have to do with frustrated adult (or pint sized toddler) temper tantrums!?
Dear one, they just may have the perfect solution. I will explain below.
I was dropping Liam off at daycare, maybe about a month ago now.. And hanging up on the wall was a little cartoon poster reading ‘Turtle Technique’ that made me stop in my tracks, because I love turtles (and frogs, and most living creatures).
And as I stood there reading this sign it truly resonated with me and I hope you find some value either in your own lives or as a teaching aid to the littles in your life.
The Turtle Technique consists of four small, but mighty parts:
1. Recognize you feel angry
2. “Think” Stop.
3. Go into your shell. Take 3 deep breaths. And think calm, coping thoughts.
4. Come out of shell when calm and thinking of a solution.
Brilliant! What a visual way to remind yourself (or your little love) of the importance of feeling though tough emotions and giving yourself a time out, to step away from the situation and cool down before reacting.
What would the world look like if we all went in our shells more often? What amazing, innovative solutions might we bring back out into the world. Wouldn’t that be so much better not only to ourselves, our blood pressure, our families, but to the world as a whole.
Today, I invite you to channel your inner turtle, and when a situation arises that pushes a bit too far, instead of pushing back simply retreat into your shell for three simple breaths of calming self-care.
I would like to leave you today with a question.
Please take a few moments to go into your shell, get quiet, and think this one over.
What is your payoff for NOT leaving a painful situation?
Well, that’s all I have for you today.
Have a turtley great day and don’t stress the small stuff!